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Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 19:22:31 +0000

Hi Sarah,

I think the No Cry Sleep Solution would be able to help you. It sounds like your daughter has become dependent on you and her paci to fall asleep and now that her sleep cycles are maturing and her “awareness” has increased she is needing you every time she has the slightest awakening in the night.

She needs to learn how to self soothe, but gradually and gently. The NCCS helps you do just that.

You are already ahead of the curve by having a routine in place and with her napping so well, that is half the battle.

I would start by putting her down, with her paci, sleepy but awake at bedtime. Stay in the room in the rocker and see what happens. If she starts to fuss, pick her up, calm her down and then try again.

One of the main problems with CIO is that babies develop and negative association to sleep. It sounds like your little one likes sleep and welcomes it but has gotten to a point where she is not sure how to get there.

I hope that helps!

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Sarah Ray

Sarah Ray — Thu, 26 Aug 2010 15:11:50 +0000

Hey Jess!
I came across your forum while looking up no cry sleep solutions. I have a 4 month old, she has always been a good sleeper in the fact that when she’s tired she’ll let you know and almost as soon as I give her her paci and rock her she falls right asleep. She sleeps 3-4 hours during the day and at night I have just established a bed time routine with a bath and feeding and in bed around 8pm with her sleeping til around 7 or 8am. Up until just recently she was waking up 3-4 times a night to feed but recently she’s been waking up every 1-2 hours and she’s not hungry and she won’t go back to sleep until I pick her up and hold her for a few mins but even then she’ll wake back up within 2 hours. I keep hearing the cry it out method works but I feel horrible letting her cry like that especially since she doesn’t understand. Any Advice???

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Comment on How To Balance Work & Attachment Parenting by barefootmoses

barefootmoses — Thu, 29 Jul 2010 18:24:25 +0000

LOVE this article. I’m starting med school next week so I’ll be attending class for part of the day while my six month old plays with his grandma. I made two copies of these last two paragraphs and am going to put them where I can see them every day!

Comment on How To Eat Green On A Budget by Sonya

Sonya — Thu, 22 Jul 2010 21:01:58 +0000

Love your ideas! I snagged a Betty Crocker Turbo Cooker at a garage sale for $5.00. It cooks faster than a my conventional oven and doesn’t heat up the house while I’m cooking. You can cook multiple items with the wire rack stacker and clean-up is really easy. Now if I could just find one of those Breville espresso machines at a garage sale. . .

Comment on About by Jenn Tufano

Jenn Tufano — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 14:29:05 +0000

Hi Jess,

Holly Kostas over here in LP turned me on to your great website and said I could drop her name in contacting you as I am currently studying to be a post-partum doula up here in the Adirondacks. My family and I (hubby and 2 girls 6 & currently live in Paul Smiths (at the college) and are moving to LP permanently next year. So when I was telling Holly about my doula interest she sent me your way! I was interested what you thought about the need and/or desire for doulas in the north country recognizing the communities are rural and very spread out. While I personally think doula are amazing, I’m hesitant to commit to the work not knowing if there is a market. Any thoughts on this? Thanks for all your great work – can’t wait to read more. I’ve just found your site this morning. Take care, Jenn

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 13:32:57 +0000

Hi Kelley,

I am of the thinking that if your baby is waking after 5 – 6 hours of solid sleep needing to eat then he is probably genuinely hungry. Even if it is just a few ounces, it may be what he needs to feel full and fall back to sleep.

But, if this one night waking is causing a real problem for you then I would suggest a couple of things…

One, try getting him to bed a little earlier, a little bit at a time (15 min increments with a few days between time changes) until he is going down closer to 6:30 or 7. I know it may seem counter intuitive, but it has been proven that an early bedtime until the age of 2 is best for their overall sleep patterns.

Two, try upping his food/formula intake during the day. Fill that tank a bit more so to speak. But avoid foods later in the day that can be stimulating such as refined carbs and sugars. When I eliminated white potatoes from my DD’s diet and substituted sweet potatoes her sleep improved that same night.

Three, try to wean the night feeding bit by bit. Have less and less formula in the bottle (again by tiny increments).

I don’t have any experience with formula so you may want to consult with your pediatrician about how to go about altering the number of ounces per day your little guy is getting.

Finally, if none of this works then I would simply chalk it up to him truly needing to eat and do your best to persevere. If he is sleeping well overall, which IMHO, it sounds like he is…have faith that this will probably pass soon. I read somewhere that 10 months is usually the turning point for a lot of babies when it comes to sleeping through the night as this is when the frequent growth spurts subside and their nervous system matures to be able to sleep for 10-11 hours at a stretch.

I know MANY moms who would trade places with you in a second to have only one night waking per night. Some babies still wake 2-3 times per night at this age.

All the best,

Jess

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Kelley

Kelley — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 20:51:51 +0000

Thanks so much for posting this review of the 3 day sleep solution! I was just about to order it as it looks so promising on the website!
My 91/2 month old is kind of challenging. He takes 2 45-60 minute naps during the day He has no trouble at all going to sleep, we have a pretty good routine. He falls asleep between 7:30-8:00 and sleeps pretty well, but wakes up once per night. The time can range from 1AM-3AM. He screams and screams until we give him a bottle, then he drinks a few ounces and goes back to sleep till about 6:30- 7:00. I’ve tried just giving him the binkie, holding him, giving him his lovie, etc. He just will not settle down till he gets the milk. If we let him go too long without giving in to the milk, he wakes up even more and is harder to settle down for sleep!
Any suggestions on how to get rid of this night “feeding”?

Comment on Babies with Acid Reflux – Natural Tips & Solutions to Sooth Your Baby by suzanne

suzanne — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 10:15:46 +0000

I liked this article the best. But, Peyton only spits up, which is a problem. Other babies are fussy and cry alot. I still think you should see dr. on Friday. If Peyton eats less and keeps it down it might be better than over feeding and she spits half up.

Experiment, give her only 120 and see how she does.

Also try the gripe water. Will phone you tomorrow.

I think you should go to the doc. because before the two were only 15 oz. apart and now Ainsley is much more than that, Peyton is slowly falling behind.

Comment on Breast milk but not breastfeeding? by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 21 May 2010 12:45:08 +0000

CA,

That is a good point. Overall there is going to be some benefit to the babies regardless of how the milk is being “delivered” or the “age” of said milk.

I do believe I have read something similar about the milk changing as the baby ages but I think that is more in regards to the density and caloric makeup, not the super antibodies and nutrients.

My fascination with the subject is more directed towards the choice “pumping” moms are making. Like I said in my comments on the article, I HATED pumping, couldn’t be bothered with all the cleaning involved and truly enjoyed the closeness nursing provides.

I have to admit it would have been (be) nice to hand babe over to Daddy or MomMom for a break now and again.

But, Miah is already 5 months and before I know it he will be a walking, talking, weaning toddler.

Comment on Breast milk but not breastfeeding? by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 21 May 2010 12:39:36 +0000

Hi Mom of 3,

I applaud you endlessly for doing everything you could to do what was best for your babies. Your case is absolutely an exceptional one. Any mom with multiples needs help in some form. Knowing what is involved with nursing one baby I can only imagine the challenge two or more babies must pose.

Comment on Breast milk but not breastfeeding? by momof3

momof3 — Fri, 21 May 2010 03:11:58 +0000

I had to pump and feed bottles. I had 9 week early triplets that needed formula added to the breastmilk to increase the calories. Cleaning the pump and bottles was a hassle, but I am so thankful for the breastmilk my babies were able to receive.

Comment on Breast milk but not breastfeeding? by CA

CA — Wed, 19 May 2010 18:20:54 +0000

While I of course believe breast milk to be the obvious option over formula, I wonder if the use of stored breast milk is as effective, nutritionally speaking, as nursing your baby as he/she grows. I am definitely not an expert but it’s my understanding that the milk mom produces can/does change to meet the nutritional needs of her baby.
The mom in the article said that she pumped all the milk she’d use for her baby in the first few months. Well I just wonder if using milk from month 3 will fully satisfy the nutritional requirements of a 13 month old baby?

Comment on Breast Feeding The Second Time Around… by Ivy

Ivy — Fri, 14 May 2010 13:25:38 +0000

I found my experience with the hospital nurses and breastfeeding to be frustrating. They were very pushy and grabbed my breast and the baby’s head and made her cry and she wouldn’t latch on while they were doing that. They wanted to introduce a bottle, but i refused. Breastfeeding at the hospital was a challenge, but I am so glad I didn’t give up, because once we got home and it was just us, it was much more comfortable. Once my milk came in, I had a problem with leaking during the first couple of months. She would be nursing on one side and the other side would start leaking, but I wouldn’t realize until my arm or stomach would be wet. Something you just have to have a sense of humor about

Lanolin would be my biggest recommendation to any nursing mother, and if you can get your hands on the book “Fresh Milk” (which I found at a yard sale) it is a compilation of breastfeeding stories from women around the world with a great variety of positive and negative experiences and advice.

I thought I would breastfeed for the whole first year, but my daughter decided she was done at ten months. The end of breastfeeding is a bittersweet experience. It is amazing what our bodies can do. I am so glad that I didn’t give up in the hospital when the nurses were being so pushy and that I was able to give my daughter the best nutritional start.

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by ali

ali — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 01:40:19 +0000

i haven’t read through all the responses, but I read your review of the 3 day sleep solution by Davis E., and I have to say, I never bought the DVDs, I only heard her on newmommiewnewbabies.com podcast and my impression was that I was to let her cry only a few minutes and then check on her. I am a very spiritually oriented person, and couldn’t imagine letting DD cry a moment, and at 5 months, I had barely let her cry ever, except a few occassions when she had a meltdown and there was nothing to do but hold her and love her. anyway, what i gathered from the podcast was the following: put her down between 5-6 pm (she had been going down around 10pm after bath ritual, and waking up at least every 2-3 hours generally); put her down for naps every 90 minutes or so awake but drowsy; when she wakes up after going down for the night (say 2-3-4 hours later) let her cry 5 minutes, check on her, let her cry 7 minutes. well, we did this only two nights, having let her cry a total of twenty minutes and by the 3rd night, she slept until 11:30pm then awakened around 5am. Davis says every baby wakes between 5:30 and 6:30 am and I see this with my DD. I have decided to put her down close to 6pm, feed her when she awakens (always between 11-12am) then another feeding around 5-6:30am. it’s not infalliable, as last night she seemed to want to eat every 2-3 hours again, but I truly believe she needs her deep sleep, and while babies wake up lots during the night, we need to help their digestive systems rest while their brains rejuvinate. I don’t think this program should be labeled cry it out, because after all, it should only take a few days. If it takes longer, then maybe its not a good program for that child, as I don’t think we should ignore them if they are in distress. just my 2 cents! good luck to all.

Comment on Breast milk but not breastfeeding? by Robin

Robin — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 21:53:19 +0000

I think in most cases this is due to early latch difficulties, at least it was in my case.

Comment on Breast milk but not breastfeeding? by mellomouse

mellomouse — Sun, 25 Apr 2010 16:36:56 +0000

my sentiment exactly about the pumping and bottles! that’s twice the job and twice the time spent. not forgetting sterilizing bottles and warming up the EBM *faints*

no matter how sore i am now, i would rather my baby latches on than giving him the bottle. furthermore, he gets lazy and impatient with my nipple after getting the easy flow from a bottle.

Comment on Review – The 90 Minute Baby Sleep Program by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 18:48:49 +0000

They are good companions I think…the principles in the No Cry Sleep Solution help you create a routine and avoid common mistakes new parents make where as the 90 Minute Baby Sleep Program give parents a schedule to work with. So when you combine the two you have a pretty cool plan for helping your baby learn healthy sleep habits.

Comment on Review – The 90 Minute Baby Sleep Program by Fred Woodbridge

Fred Woodbridge — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 12:58:22 +0000

I read through this book rather quickly at the bookstore and it seems to fit with other information on sleep.
How would you compare this book with the No-Cry Sleep Solution book?

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 01:39:19 +0000

Thank you Sarah. Its a shame that women are not allowed birth on their own time in their own way in our culture. Its a shame that so many “medical professionals” have been brainwashed into treating birth like an illness or medical emergency. Its a shame that babies are born into this sort of hyper medical state and deprived of a gentle introduction into this world. The silver lining to all of this mess is the wonderful babies we get at the end of it all.

Comment on My Second Birth Story by sarah kelley

sarah kelley — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 01:14:39 +0000

I am so glad you are sharing your expeiences Jess. I feel like both of my birth experiences were not what I expected them to be and were so controlled by the ‘medical professionals’ who made decisions that never felt right to me. It is wonderful to hear about powerful women who made positive choices for themselves and their babies!

Comment on My venture into the world of cloth diapers by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 21:04:44 +0000

You know, I have heard other moms talk about that…do you have a pattern? I would love to make some for Jeremiah.

Comment on My venture into the world of cloth diapers by Elisa evans

Elisa evans — Fri, 16 Apr 2010 20:58:43 +0000

I love using prefolds. While Bummis diaper covers are great, nothing beats wool. You can recycle old sweaters or buy them cheap at goodwill and make your own. I don’t like any synthetic fabrics touching my LO’s heiny

Comment on Is my toddler ready to drop her nap? by Wilma

Wilma — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 15:48:34 +0000

My son is going to be 3 on July. And I think he is ready to drop his nap. There was a few days I put him down for his normal nap time, he stayed up for almost an hour in his bedroom singing or talking to his stuff animal. And there was also a time that if he did fall sleep, took a while and late for his bedtime. And at night it was hard for him to settle down and go to sleep. So i just started giving him a downtime instead of a nap time. But I still tell him, nap time, you can read a book, or play with your stuff animal as long as quietly. And if you fall sleep that is good and if not just wait until mommy come and get you. But I’am still confused and want to make sure that I was not misreading the sign. I’am worried.

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Comment on Is my toddler ready to drop her nap? by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 12:54:24 +0000

Kit,

You are so right! Thanks.

Comment on Is my toddler ready to drop her nap? by Kit

Kit — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 10:45:16 +0000

If your toddler , or even preschooler, is willing to lie down and take a hour or two of quiet time at ‘naptime’ then the ‘naptime’ continues for as long as that works!
And to decide it’s not working, the kid should have protested for at least 3 days in a row, because every small child will have a bad day or two here or there.
This time is invaluable not just to you, but to your child’s development.
She’s learning that down time is a good thing, something she needs.
She’s learning to amuse herself without your constant supervision.
She’s learning patience and self control.
NEVER give up naptime until you must!

Comment on An overview of cloth diaper styles… by Hipolito M. Wiseman

Hipolito M. Wiseman — Wed, 31 Mar 2010 22:33:19 +0000

It’s nice to see bloggers discussing child care and toddler concerns a lot more often these days. Many thanks for the article, I found this on aol.

Comment on Attachment Parenting Element #3 – Breastfeed Your Baby by Laura Jane

Laura Jane — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 12:35:53 +0000

More mother’s should breastfeed, perhaps then people wouldn’t act so strange when they see a nursing mother. I am breastfeeding my third little boy and wouldn’t have it any other way. Nice website btw.

Comment on Is it really illegal to have a homebirth in New York State? by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:44:48 +0000

Jasmine,

Where are you located? I can ask my midwife if she knows of anyone close to you…if you are more comfortable you can send me the info private email to jray1175@gmail.com.

How far along are you?

Comment on Is it really illegal to have a homebirth in New York State? by Jasmine Julian

Jasmine Julian — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 20:46:36 +0000

I am desperately wanting a homebirth!! My last child was almost born in the car because the hospital is so far away… any idea’s on where to look for a midwife who would be willing? Thanks for your help. I too was under the impression that it was illegal here.

Comment on Attachment Parenting Element #3 – Breastfeed Your Baby by Aiden @ baby sling

Aiden @ baby sling — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 20:35:44 +0000

Excellent….nice to hear your baby came healthy 10 pounds and safe !

Comment on The Many Benefits of Adding Nuts To Your Diet by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 23:10:48 +0000

Hi Janet,

It has been my experience that you KNOW when a nut butter has turned. It smells and tastes very sour. Beyond that, there is no danger at all. We use an all “natural” peanut butter for our PB&J’s and although it says “refrigerate after opening” we don’t since we go through it so fast. But, in the off time when we are not using up the jar as fast as usual we just pop it in the fridge to keep.

I hope that answers your question.

Comment on The Many Benefits of Adding Nuts To Your Diet by Janet

Janet — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:05:53 +0000

Is it dangerous to eat “natural” almond butter that must be refrigerated after opening? I want to eat healthy but worry about bacteria growth, etc.?

Comment on Attachment Parenting Element #3 – Breastfeed Your Baby by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 12:45:08 +0000

Hi Nile,

I just took a quick look at Healthy Moms, great site. Happy to network with you!

Comment on Attachment Parenting Element #3 – Breastfeed Your Baby by Nile

Nile — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 08:19:07 +0000

I really enjoyed breast feeding my son. Took 1 year and then another 4 months to wean off.

I do agree that it seems that breastfeeding is not being emphasized enough and often looked down upon. However, I will never frown about it. It is a beautiful thing and any mother who is able to, should at least try it before deciding otherwise.

By the way, I work as a virtual assistant of The Healthy Moms ( http://www.thehealthymoms.net ), the site is fairly new and I thought I would drop by some mom and health related sites to spread the word.

Comment on The Green Mom Pregnancy Diet – Second Trimester by Bobbye Calvaresi

Bobbye Calvaresi — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 01:25:31 +0000

following this blog, great stuff!

Comment on How To Eat Green On A Budget by Marilyn Diamond

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Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:18:18 +0000

Hi Claudia,

First off, that is WAY too late of a bedtime for your little boy. At that age he should be in bed by 7pm at the latest. My DD is almost four and is in bed by 7:30pm.

Second, he should be napping at least once if not twice a day. If he is not, then he is OVER tired which contributes to night wakings.

Elizabeth Pantley’s No Cry Sleep Solution For Pre-Schoolers and Toddlers gets into all of this, you may want to grab a copy. Otherwise, feel free to contact me via private email to set up a time to talk. jray1175@gmail.com

Best,

Jess

Comment on Attachment Parenting Element #3 – Breastfeed Your Baby by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 20:15:11 +0000

Gilliauna,

You make a good point. I know some women who “flaunt” breastfeeding with the intention of making people uncomfortable and then giving someone are hard time for staring or looking. The more of us who nurse in public with just a touch of modesty and respect for others the more I would hope nursing moms would be treated with the same respect and therefore find more support when they are out and about with their babies.

Thanks for contributing to the conversation!

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Claudia Cuevas

Claudia Cuevas — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 08:00:22 +0000

I have a 21 month old boy that has terrible sleeping patterns. He sleeps 11 hours but wakes up 2-3 times during the night (crying, if I may add). He usually goes to sleep between 10pm-12am and wakes up between the same time, 10am-12pm. I would like to talk to you about the whole situation. I don’t know what to do and I need some advice. Please contact me, if you can. Thank you. Claudia Cuevas

Comment on Attachment Parenting Element #3 – Breastfeed Your Baby by Gilliauna

Gilliauna — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 07:45:04 +0000

I think as far as public breast feeding goes that this is one of those instances in society where the actions of a few have effected the many.

Most of the time? I’ve passed people in the airport and other public places that are breast feeding and most people don’t even notice.

It’s the trashy woman with the mini skirt and low-brow sneer that whips her breast out the neck of her shirt to expose herself to the world that sears into people’s mind’s eye though.

There’s a serious “ick” factor in that situation and it makes the act -seem- lewd.

Then, all of a sudden whenever the topic is brought up, it’s not all those discrete instances they missed that stick in their minds but rather the one bad seed in the bunch.

Comment on Review – The 90 Minute Baby Sleep Program by Anisa

Anisa — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 00:01:27 +0000

I hadn’t heard of this one. I will check it out.

Comment on Attachment Parenting Element #3 – Breastfeed Your Baby by Anisa

Anisa — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 23:59:01 +0000

I love that you are going through all these different AP elements. Will definitely be sending link love your way.

Comment on Breast Feeding The Second Time Around… by Caroline Hesse

Caroline Hesse — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:46:55 +0000

Jess…the most amazing thing I used when I first started BFing were called Comfort Gels. I think they are made by Ameda. I kept them in the fridge and stuck them in my bra when needed. A lifesaver. I hope things are going great now w/ nursing!

Comment on Breast Feeding The Second Time Around… by Anisa

Anisa — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 19:25:33 +0000

I had a similar experience with my second. He too had trouble with his latch and I found myself using the Lansinoh for the first time. It is one of the MANY things I am finding to confirm the fact that every baby is different. Duh, I know. But really.

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Anisa

Anisa — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 19:05:26 +0000

Love your story Jessica. Beautiful! Congratulations!

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Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 01:49:33 +0000

First, Sorry it has taken so long for me to get back to you. With a new baby and a three year old, things are a little hectic to say the least!

It is a common misconception that babies only wake due to hunger and that their sleep will improve when they begin to eat solids, but it is really a matter of their system maturing and developing the ability to sleep without help.

The music may be starting to backfire or work against you at this point. I would try switching to white noise like a fan or air purifier. Also, a lovey of some sort may help.

You also want to look at her nap time sleep and be sure that she is getting enough sleep during the day. She could be overtired and therefor need more help to sleep at night and unable to stay asleep.

You would really benefit from reading the No Cry Sleep Solution. It really puts things in a perspective that makes sense. The plan she proposes can take a few weeks to kick in, so to speak, but is well worth it in the end. It would help you wean her from the swing.

Also, try to look at it as a good thing that she doesn’t need to nurse to sleep. That can get rough when you baby uses you as a pacifier which is what happened to me with my first baby.

Sorry I couldn’t be of more help to you…I am not on my game 100% right now as I am dealing with newborn sleep issues at the moment.

All the best and I hope you can get some sleep soon.

Comment on Fitted or Contour Cloth Diapers – What’s the difference? by Msphd

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Comment on My Second Birth Story by Tanya

Tanya — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 02:43:19 +0000

Beautiful. I’ve worked with Kathie for a number of years and don’t get the opportunity to see her but seldom anymore. She’s a confident midwife and woman that makes me smile frequently. I heard from her that she had a beautiful birth experience on Christmas, so I’m glad you’re sharing your story. Congratulations!

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Joyce Vanselow

Joyce Vanselow — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 23:29:35 +0000

Jess… what a lovely story. Thank you for welcoming me into your space and your experience. It was an honor to be with you all. (Special “Hi!” to Evalee!)

Hope to see you all soon… Joyce

Comment on Is my toddler ready to drop her nap? by Nancy

Nancy — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:47:26 +0000

My son dropped his nap when he was about 2 – 2 1/2 yrs old. For awhile, he would play quietly in his room during that time. Sometimes while playing quietly he would go to sleep, sometimes not. That was fine with me. After my daughter was born, when he was almost 2 1/2, we got to the point where if he did nap, he would not be ready to go to sleep until midnight. He normally goes to bed about 9 or 10 pm, and sleeps til 9 or 10 am. (late bedtime, I know, but he seems to be a natural “night owl”, like both my husband and I would be if we could sleep in). For awhile,, I would try to keep up the quiet playtime in his room, but then as my daughter got a little bigger, and I was busy trying to get her to nap (still a challenge), I found it was just as easy to leave him to play in the living room while we were gone. After a few months of the transition of sometimes napping, we found that the evening fussies were no more. Still every now and then, if we are going to be out late and he will be up later than usual, and we need him not fussy, I will try to rock him to sleep, but it usually backfires by keeping him up TOO LATE.
I do wish I had stuck with the routine of quiet playtime, but he got to where he would cry when I left, and say he wanted to rock some more. I couldn’t seem to convince him that I didn’t want him to nap, just play alone in his room for a little while.

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Nancy

Nancy — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:33:15 +0000

Hi Jess, thanks for the information on “3 Day Sleep”. I was reading their website, and it gives no indication that it is a variation of “Cry It Out”, which I am COMPLETELY AGAINST. So it would have been a big waste of money for me to get it.

My daughter is 10 months old, has never been a good sleeper, but I am afraid that it is getting worse in some respects. For several months when she was younger (like 4-6 months or even younger than that), she would nurse, then I could lay her down in her crib (travel crib actually) in our room, pat her while she fussed a little bit, and she would go on to sleep. She did not fall asleep every time she nursed, like my son had when he was nursing. I considered it a problem that I did not have nursing as a sure-fire method to get her to sleep. She later began to fall asleep more while nursing. It got so bad, be started putting her in the swing to go to sleep, and she would sleep for maybe 4 hrs, but if the swing stopped, she’d wake up. Well, the motor died (we bought it 3 yrs ago for our first son), so luckily she will now stay asleep after it has stopped. We have to swing her ALL THE WAY TO THE TOP OF THE SWING MOTION, when it bumps, and that is the only way she will go to sleep in the swing. Oh, and the music on the swing is on too, and that helps. Many nights, I will nurse for a few minutes, and she starts to fuss and push away. I don’t think I am producing as much milk, as she is eating a good bit of solids. We make sure to feed her good before bed (solids I mean). When she starts to fuss and push away, I then try to just rock her and pat her to sleep. But her crying escalates. We have a soothing song playing all night, hoping that sound will soothe her (our son has a sound machine with ocean waves, but she seemed to respond better to music when she was younger). My husband says, “let me just swing her to sleep”. So I give up and hand her over. last night he swung her to sleep, then put her in her crib, and she slept for 2 hrs. then I nursed her back to sleep, put her back in her crib, she slept for 2 hrs. Then I couldn’t get her to go back to sleep for an hour (nursing). Finally I got her back to sleep in the swing, and she slept for at least a last 4 hrs.
I have never heard of a baby who will not go to sleep with Mommy rocking her, but will go to sleep banging in the swing. Help!! You seem very knowledgeable from the info I’ve read here. I’ve tried to give you all the info I can so you can give me some tips.
Again, thanks for saving me the money I may have spent to buy 3DaySleep, since I would not have been comfortable with the recommendations to let her cry.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Nancy

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:31:26 +0000

Serendipitous is right. One could not have happened with out the other, so thank you too.

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Kathie Breault

Kathie Breault — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 20:26:09 +0000

It was a special birth, on a special night, with a special woman. It was serendipitous that the birth of your baby and my practice happened on Christmas morn!
You were a midwife’s dream client, Jess. Confident, strong, loving, and calm…with an unwavering belief in the birth process.
It was a gift to be able to be with you as you brought little (little? BIG!) Jeremiah Matthew into the world.
We are ALL blessed.
Thank you for having me.
Kathie

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:08:08 +0000

Thanks Grandpa Don…love you.

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Don

Don — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 12:43:18 +0000

Just got on your site this AM. Sitting here with tears reading your beautiful story.
Don

Comment on My venture into the world of cloth diapers by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:42:54 +0000

You are very welcome.

I just recently had baby #2 and incorporated some prefolds into my collection and I have to say I like them a lot.

Once you get the hang of using the Snappi, and make sure to tuck the prefold in real well all around to be sure none is sticking out (this will cause leaks, eek), they are great.

Honestly, if I knew then what I know now, I would have skipped the bum genius’s and gone with the prefolds from the beginning…oh well. Live and learn.

Comment on My venture into the world of cloth diapers by tgal

tgal — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 00:23:16 +0000

This was really helpful. I am on baby #3 and a sahm. I really want to cloth diaper and this help me to decide which direction to go. I recently purchased the gdiaper but I would like something more convenient for quick onestep changes.

Thanks a “bundle”

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Jess Ray — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 15:58:48 +0000

Any questions? Have a funny breastfeeding story to tell? Leave it here…

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Blog Tactic

Blog Tactic — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 04:54:31 +0000

Congrat. I find this water-birth article very interesting.

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 17:29:40 +0000

Hi Lindsy,

Thanks!

I tried to leave a comment on your blog but it wouldn’t let me…your story is beautiful. Can I post on my blog? I am trying to collect MW attended home birth stories.

Jess

Comment on My Second Birth Story by Lindsy

Lindsy — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 15:29:22 +0000

What a great birth story! I had my daughter at home, too. And I agree, the Aqua Doula is the way to go. I remember that, as soon as I got into the water, the contractions that were just a bit beyond manageable seemed so much more manageable.

Here’s my birth story: http://www.theslcblog.com/2008/12/blast-from-past-our-birth-story.html

Hooray for home births!

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Since my attention to these codes I have been switching to glass for storing leftovers in the frig. But I still use alot of plastic storage bags and freezer bags. I see that I should be using #4. Where do I find the # on the boxes? Is there a brand that offers #4? Thanks

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Caroline Hesse — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 02:39:18 +0000

This is such an inspiring story, Jess. Even though I didn’t have the natural birth I wanted, I love reading other people’s stories. I am so happy for you all! Mazel Tov!

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Jess Ray — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 13:55:02 +0000

Hi Rhonda,

Sure. I will add you to my blogroll.

Best,

Jess

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Rhonda Benson — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 02:23:19 +0000

Hello,

I came upon your site and was impressed with the content. I am a WHAM, with a cloth diapering e-commerce company called monkeybunz.com. I was wondering if you would be interested in exchanging links to each others sites. I look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you,

Rhonda Benson

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 15:15:24 +0000

Frances,

It sounds like you need to go back to the drawing board a bit, maybe re-read the relevant parts of the No Cry Sleep Solution as a refresher and re-enforcer of the philosophy.

First, I would start by keeping a sleep journal. Write down when he goes down and when he wakes…trust me you will see a pattern eventually. Evalee was all over the map too when I started so just trust me on this. Get a little notebook and write down when he wakes, when he goes down, how he went down (nursing, rocking etc) and when he ate.

Second, try a different object as a lovey. What is he drawn to? I purchased one of those Snoedels for Evalee (from the NCSS) and she wanted nothing to do with it. I noticed that she really like this one knitted blanket we got as a gift. I asked my MIL to make a little version of it, about 10in by 10in, and she still uses it to this day (she is 3 and a half). Does he have a little stuffed animal he likes? Try to find something, anything to replace you as a comfort tool.

Third, try introducing some white noise rather than music. A fan or something that makes pure white noise. Music can be stimulating rather than soothing.

Fourth, lighting. What is the light quality in his room. He may need complete darkness to sleep. We had to put room darkening shades on Evalee’s windows to get her to nap.

Fifth, now bear with me on this one…but have you considered co-sleeping? Just to get him to sleep for now and then once you do have a schedule, routine etc introduce the crib. Just a thought. You may be surprised. And if it means you all getting the much needed sleep you all need, why not?

Sixth, do NOT let him nurse to sleep. Tickle his feet, chin, whatever to keep him just slightly awake. Try to follow the wake, eat, play sleep pattern.

Seventh, not that you want to read yet another book but this one is an easy read and really helpful: “The 90-minute Baby Sleep Program” by Polly Moore, PHD. I am using this method along with the NCSS with my newborn (I had a baby boy Xmas morning) and so far so good.

I know this is a lot so I hope its not too much. Let me know how you make out. Whatever you do, give it at least 2 weeks. Create a routine and stick with it.

Good luck,

Jess

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Frances

Frances — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 15:13:35 +0000

Hi Jess,

Thanks for the quick feedback!

i did try to introduce a lovey but it never worked… i still breastfeed with the lovey beside us but he doesn’t really go for it… i;ve evn slept with it and then put it in his crib. his daytime naps are horrible.. since day one he never slept longer than 20 min catnaps… and he always had to be swaddled.. especially at night till about 4 months old. onle recently has he been napping longer about 40-60 min… but usually 40 on the nose.. and he gets very cranky around 6-630 and sometimes catnaps at that time too. his bedtime routine starts with a bath… however… we were only giving baths every second night… because i was unsure if we should do it everynight… as he enjoys it but maybe too much… he gets excited … then we put on his pj’s and read a few books and then feed and the bed… and we play some soft music during the story and feeding.
i know i lack a REAL routine… even during the day… but i don’t know how to KEEP a routine when he is never the same… he doesn’t wake at the same time to start his day and he never sleeps at the same time for his naps or for the same amount of time… so i usually just go by his cues… but this means our routine is lacking… and i don’t know how to fix that??

ok… thanks for listening!
Frances

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 14:40:03 +0000

Hi Frances,

I am going to reply to you via private email but I wanted to comment here as well for the benefit of future readers…

I know it can feel like it but, a 5 and 1/2 month old is not capable of manipulation. I also know the temptation of the formula vs breast milk debate.

All he/she can do is tell you as best he/she can what she needs and that is through crying. It sounds like although you found some success with the No Cry Sleep Solution initially, you may need to revisit its principles for your baby’s new stage in life.

I have a few questions for you before I can offer too much advice:

1. Does your son have a lovey (other than the pacifier)?
2. How is his daytime sleep/naps?
3. What is the time like leading up to bedtime, what sort of routine have you created to signal time for sleep?

From what you have shared so far, it sounds like you have a “high need” baby. He needs your contact. Have you tried wearing him in a sling or wrap during the day to give him some more mommy contact time? Or is he in daycare now? Like I said, tell me more about your situation, what has changed other than his (and your) lack of sleep.

Hope to hear from you soon!

Jess

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Frances

Frances — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 22:58:36 +0000

Hi Jess,

I stumbled upon your site looking for sleep tips for my 5 and 1/2 month old. I appreciated your blog however i already read the no-cry sleep solution and i did think it was working. i went from 3 night time feedings to picking him up and rocking him to putting the pacifier back in his mouth without picking him up till about 6am… which i thought was amazing… but now something is different… he wakes all the time and his longest stretch is only about 2 and a half hours. i started formula also and i think that was helping him sleep longer… but not anymore! My husband thinks we need to let him cry because the baby seems to manipulate us… when we pick him up he immediately stops crying and falls asleep and then we have a hard time putting him back in his crib… he cries the moment he feels like we are moving him away from our body. Anyways, i’m a VERY patient person but i’m starting to feel like something has got to give because i’m just sooo exhausted… and so is my baby who was NEVER a good sleeper.

any thoughts would be appreciated!
Thanks!
Frances

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self hypnosis pain — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:55:51 +0000

Wow! that is a very detailed and interesting birth plan. Like you, I had a normal spontaneous delivery. No episiotomy or pain relievers. I just practiced self-hypnosis as well. The baby came out very quickly and he is now an 8-month old baby boy.

Self-hypnosis really works especially for birthing mothers. the pain really is terrible but it is worth it; plus you can lessen or eliminate pain thru self-hypnosis.

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 13:51:59 +0000

Hi Sandy,

I will reply to you via private email.

Jess

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Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Sandy

Sandy — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 01:45:27 +0000

I just stumbled across this piece you submitted about the “cry it out” method. I have to say that you have re-assured me that letting your child scream is a harsh way to go about things.

My daughter is now 5 months old, she’ll be six months on the 29th. Since my husband and I brought her home from the hospital she had been sleeping threw the night. Lucky to say the least… up until recently. Over the last month or so she has been waking up during the night. Usually only once or twice, but since I have been back to work since this new pattern of hers is exhausting me.

Typically when she wakes up the first time, I go…put the nook in her mouth, place my hand on her till she falls back to sleep. Then about an hour or 2 later, she rises again and really demands a meal. So I give in.

Now here is the deal… recently I started her on solids, thinking “oh maybe she is going threw a growth spert”… So I would give her some cereal and some fruits in the morning with about 5-6 oz or milk. Then milk (8 oz) for the rest of the day. Unfortunatelty… this has not “cured” the issue because she is still waking up during the night.

My husband is I guess you could say a “closet” advocate for the “cry it out” method, where as for me, I just can’t see myself letting my child scream in distress until there is no other resort for their small bodies BUT to exhaust themselves into sleep. I just feel as though this method is cruel and just forms a DISTRUST…that really, your child DEPENDS on from the moment of conception.

I guess where I am going with this whole thing is… before I go and buy this book, maybe YOU could give me some sound advice! My email should show up for you to see if you would like to contact me there, PLEASE FEEL FREE!!!!
-Sandy

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Comment on Excited about Working From Home by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:20:38 +0000

Hi Sue,

I will send you a private email about the whole Angel Stevens thing…I took that website down a couple months ago.

Jess

Comment on Excited about Working From Home by sue ringle

sue ringle — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 22:33:41 +0000

Hi Jess
Stumbled on your site when I saw Angel Stevens name pop
up. Or the other on Angela Penbrook. Got taken by the latter,some time ago. Wonder if you still have the info from
Angel Stevens Scams.us. The server can’t find it.
I know that you had this about a year ago. A day late and a
dollar short is where I usually am. Am Determined to find
a way to make some extra income from home. The previous
mentioned “gottcha” means lots of homework. Thanks for
your help. Your site “Green Mom Happy Mom” is great.
You doing what I did 30 years ago. All the babies are
grown and gone. Keep up your good work.

Best Wishes
Sue Ringle

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Tracy — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 19:06:38 +0000

There was no question in my mind that we would use cloth diapers when we found out we were pregnant with my son. We used them from the moment he was born. My first thought was why would I want some peice of plastic/paper put on my butt as one of my first experiences in the world! My husband and I got a bunch of pre-folds as gifts so we added to the collection and bought a few more covers. Luckily most of my friends use cloth so we even swapped covers as our kiddos were different ages. The covers can be used a few times during the day too so it’s less washing! I’ve also bought some of the complete diapers that come as diaper and cover but I found these to be too bulky for the crawling stage( at least for my son). We even used cloth all through the night….it’s no different than changing a paper diaper at 2am.
I will say this, even though I feel it is the best for my child and the environment, using cloth can be trying at times, especially in the first few months when you are nonstop laundry and sleepless. There were a few times when I got really sick of washing that I used the compostable throw aways and said I was all done with cloth! However I found myself going back to cloth after a few days. We used the throw aways when we were out for a long period of time and continued with cloth up until he was completely in Thomas the train underwear at 2 years and 3 months! For all you new moms at least give it a try they make cloth real user friendly and you really are making a difference by doing so. Greenmountaindiapers.com is a great site to get diapers and covers as well. We were big fans of the wool diapers and wraps..the only thing is takes a litle more care for washing!

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 01:26:02 +0000

Hi Rani,

Being that your daughter is 3 and I can only assume she can communicate with you…have you just come right out and asked her why she doesn’t like her new bed?

What was the transition? From crib/toddler size bed to a twin, full? Is the bed just a mattress on the floor? Tell me what her original sleep environment was like and how it has changed. Try and look at it from a 3 year old perspective. The time of 3 is also the time of fears. Does she have a lovey or “friend” to help comfort her? Have you tried a night light?

I want to help you and am more than willing to talk through all of this with you but you need to give me more insight.

Hope to hear from you soon.

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by rani

rani — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 23:24:45 +0000

Hi Jess my daughter is Jas also she is 3 I have read the book no cry sleep my daughter was a great sleeper until now she is three and just got into her big girl bed I am a fulltime working mother my hubby works nights she has not let me sleep in days I have slept with ehr rocked her read to her let he cry it out everything and still no good result please help!!!

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Christine — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 20:50:03 +0000

My oldest is almost 5 and he still takes naps. I have found that if I keep him up all day, he is a BEAR thru dinner/bath/bedtime. We skip naps some days (long car rides where he has dozed off, for example) but ultimately I think it just depends on the individual kid.. Naptime is also just another way to get a break, too. My boy and his 2 y.o. sister nap anywhere from 45 mins to 2 1/2 hrs and in that time i can read, clean, or nap myself.. Its good for the soul! Anyway good luck which ever way you go!

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Jess Ray — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 22:01:36 +0000

Thanks Caroline,

Yes, if you are going to use raw nuts you do want to process them a bit to reap the full benefits and to prevent any digestive issues. Very good point, thank you.

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Don’t forget to soak the nuts overnight in water when you can. Then you can dehydrate them on a cookie sheet on your lowest oven setting. Takes more time, but nuts are very hard on the old digestive tract!

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Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 16:17:17 +0000

Hi Kimberley,

Like I said to Rachelle, I think it is great your daughter responded so well to Davis’s method. And you too have a point that I did not try it myself.

But, I do not think that I am being harsh at all. In the printed review I simply state the facts of what the program contains. And in my video I share my experience as well as that of some of my family. I also quote. Dr. Sears information on the effect of the cry it out method.

My message to parents considering this method is to trust their instincts and to not do something out of desperation that they may regret. Every baby is different. There is no one size fits all method for anything in the world of parenting, as I am sure you know all too well.

You are certainly entitled to your opinion as am I. I am expecting my second child in Dec ’09 and my plan is to follow the No Cry Sleep Solution again since that is what worked so well for my daughter.

To any parents who may be reading this thread, take all of these comments into consideration. If you feel your baby or toddler will respond well to Davis’s program, then by all means, give it a shot.

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Kimberley

Kimberley — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 01:14:20 +0000

First let me say that I am a pretty green mom myself. We are all about organic and pure and letting our kids develop in their own ways. We also are a NON-corporal punishment household with no spanking and positive behavior support throughout the family so it is all about rewarding. We have a selective vaccination schedule and our kids pediatrician is Dr. Robert Sears!

I was initially TOTALLY against the cry it out method with my first daughter. She didn’t sleep for the first 9 months of life – NO KIDDING – 9 MONTHS of up every hour – My husband and I took shifts in the night to address the issue for this long and truth be told it took a toll on all of us – I read EVERY book out there including the one you recommend and I tried all the methods for weeks at a time to try to avoid the cry it out method.

A friend of mine recommended that I consult Davis and although I was hesitant and skeptical I called and followed her advice down to the simplest things – she was supportive and educational through the entire process and my child is now not only a GREAT sleeper but a Happy, well-developed, independent 3 year old. I consulted Davis again when our second daughter was born 9 months ago and within 8 weeks she was sleeping for 12 hours a night. We would NEVER let our children cry if they were hurt, scared, or ill and if I ever thought it would be detrimental to their development or psyche I would not have done it. I am a school psychologist and well educated in child development as well as what impacts parent’s behavior has on children.

For you to be so harsh on this method without having ever executing it yourself is not fair. I think it scares parents that may be in a situation like I was where no other solutions may have worked for them. I am sure the no cry solution works for many children but there ARE some that just need another way and this is NOT abusive in any form! I think you really need to educate yourself fully before you make sweeping statements about a method.

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Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 12:56:26 +0000

Hi Rachelle,

First of all let me say that I am very happy that you had positive results with the 3 Day Sleep Solution. And you certainly have a point in that I didn’t try the method out. Honestly, my daughter is almost 3 1/2 and is well beyond needing it thanks to the No Cry Sleep Solution. I was simply looking into something that parents were asking me about through my blog.

I feel you may have missed my point. I DO agree with the prep material Davis provides in preparing your baby for sleep. She absolutely provides sound advice in how to read sleepy signs, getting on the right schedule, the importance of naps and how to avoid using sleep crutches. I also like that fact that she cautions using her method until the baby is at least 3 months old.

BUT, one thing that Davis does not take into account is baby’s personality. Not all people/babies are sleepers. My daughter was one of them. Even when I was utilizing the very principles that Davis recommends (all very similar to those in the No Cry Sleep Solution) my daughter was very distraught and would cry very, very hard. She was a high need baby. (Lucky me!)

Your babies sound like this method was perfect for them and their personality and probably took to it so well because you followed Davis’s advice to the letter.

Let me ask you, when you say your babies did not cry that long at all, how long is that exactly? Just curious. Also, did they immediately sleep through the night? Just for the sake of other readers considering this product.

At the end of the day, we all want what is best for our children but have to keep our own sleep needs in mind. I did not mean to come across in saying that the 3 Day Sleep Solution is BAD. I just wanted people to know that it is a CIO method and that it may not be right for all babies.

Thank you for your feedback.

Jess

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by rachelle b

rachelle b — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 05:04:01 +0000

I fully DO NOT agree with your ‘review’ on the 3 Day Sleep Solution. First of all, how can you really ‘review’ a product you didn’t even try?? I had BOTH my babies do the 3 Day Sleep Solution and it was THE BEST thing that could have ever happened in our family. Yes, they cried but NOT that much because if you follow Davis’ steps and suggestions, you will learn the ‘right time’ to put your baby down for bed/naps, knowing sleepy signs, etc….all these things help minimize ‘crying’ time AND usually, it only lasts a few days. My babies are in NO WAY traumatized….in fact it’s the opposite… people ALWAYS tell me , “Your babies are SOOOO happy” and my answer to them is, “3 Day Sleep Solution” – it’s because they sleep!!
Davis is right on w/her program – I could not disagree with you more.

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JH — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 14:11:19 +0000

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Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 01:03:09 +0000

Hi Scott,

Wow. First I would like to commend you and your wife for sticking it out this long without using the cry it out method. I know how tempting it is when things get to this point.

How verbal is your daughter at this stage? Can you ask her what her fears are? Are you using a lovey or cuddly friend, white noise, night lite etc? For instance, on nights when my daughter (3 yrs old) is having a tough time going to sleep (bed nap day, over stimulated etc) I go in, sit at the bottom of her bed and ask her what is wrong. Sometimes she just needs one more song, a 5 min back rub, a drink of water…something like that and I never hear another peep.

There could be a couple of things going on with your little pumpkin. From how you are describing it, it sounds fear based. Like she is afraid you guys are going to leave. If that is the case, try leaving the door cracked so she can hear you a bit. Also, if fear is the issue, does she have a lovey of doll of some sort to being her comfort in your absence?

When you say you “try routine”, do you stick to it? Routine is crucial when helping your child learn how to sleep independently.

Without getting more information its hard to lead you in any particular direction. I would be more than happy to chat with you and your wife on the phone some evening. Although I am not a “expert” on infant/toddler sleep, it is a subject that I have studied extensively (you should see my bookshelf) and love helping fellow parents find gentle ways to teach their kiddos to sleep through the night.

Let me know and best of luck.

Jess

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Scott

Scott — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 14:27:34 +0000

I liked your review of the 3 day sleep solution. I could not get the sound to turn up very loud but got most of the information. I am trying to study the best methods for getting our 24 month old to sleep. She is in a full sized bed and we used to lay with her to get her to sleep after reading a book and singing songs. Now we have a good routine that she knows laid out for her and we read to her and sing but then stay in the room but will not lay there with her. We keep reassuring her that we are there but she takes 30-60 minutes to fall asleep, even though she is tired. After that she still wakes up 1-4 times per night, we try to go in and reassure her that she is fine but really wearing on us, she has never been a good sleeper and has probably only slept through the night a handful of times. We have talked to the Dr., she sees a chiropractor who is a friend of ours for minor adjustments with some success. I had thought about the cry it out method but now feel against it, but I am interested in trying a modified Ferber method that worked when she was in her crib – always check on her but delay 5 minutes each time. Most nights now my wife eventually gives in and starts sleeping with her by 4 or 5am and it seems counter productive. I know you are not an expert but noticed what you said at the end of the video and ask if you have any advice. We try routine, we try to comfort, but also want to reclaim part of our lives back and have time together before we need to sleep, we also have a second child on the way in January. Our daughter takes a 1-2 nap at daycare each day and goes to bed around 8:30 (actually falls asleep by 9 – 9:30) and gets out of bed by 7:00

any advice is helpful, I will continue to check out your site

thanks

Comment on Babies with Acid Reflux – Natural Tips & Solutions to Sooth Your Baby by M.A. Rose

M.A. Rose — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 14:13:13 +0000

This is a topic too often overlooked. Thanks for posting. Natural Remedies from A to Z - Discover Natural Remedies that are Safe, Effective, and Beneficial The Organic Market - Your Source for All Things Organic

Comment on Review – The Baby Book by Dr. Sears by The Redhead Riter

The Redhead Riter — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 07:17:50 +0000

I love this pic of cute little baby booties. I can almost smell powder and baby lotion and feel their cute little toes.

Comment on Babies with Acid Reflux – Natural Tips & Solutions to Sooth Your Baby by Acid Reflux in Babies Does your baby have acid reflux Baby | Hammock Stand

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Comment on An overview of cloth diaper styles… by Pregnancy

Pregnancy — Fri, 29 May 2009 06:29:02 +0000

Wonderful! Thanks for posting this. I never heard of cloth diapers before this is really my first time and i don’t know how to find it in my country!! I live in Thailand

Comment on Babies with Acid Reflux – Natural Tips & Solutions to Sooth Your Baby by JH

JH — Thu, 28 May 2009 02:11:12 +0000

I’ve tried these methods (except for the baby hammock). What worked really well for us was infant probiotics. Prevacid and other natural treatments just didn’t do it for us.

This is what we used: http://acidreflux-babies.blogspot.com/2009/05/our-choice-for-probiotics.html

After using that, we finally got our happy baby!

Comment on Review – The Baby Book by Dr. Sears by cher

cher — Sun, 03 May 2009 04:43:47 +0000

Great site. Just reviewed you at Link Referral!

Comment on 3 Day Sleep Solution Review by Professional SAHM » Monday Link Madness – Crying-it-Out VS Co-sleeping

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Comment on How To Balance Work & Attachment Parenting by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 12:31:36 +0000

Sure, go ahead.

Comment on How To Balance Work & Attachment Parenting by Hobosic

Hobosic — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 08:33:09 +0000

Can i take a one small photo from your blog?

Comment on Babies with Acid Reflux – Natural Tips & Solutions to Sooth Your Baby by Topics about Breastfeeding » Babies with Acid Reflux - Natural Tips & Solutions to Sooth Your Baby

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[...] Green Mom – Happy Mom placed an observative post today on Babies with Acid Reflux – Natural Tips & Solutions to Sooth Your BabyHere’s a quick excerptPosted on 05. Apr, 2009 by Jess Ray in Baby Wearing, Breastfeeding, Child Development, Trials & TribulationsAcid reflux in infants has become yet another symptom of colic, the general term pediatricians use for a fussy baby.A friend of mine just had his first child who was 6 weeks premature and although she is now home and doing well, the poor little peanut is suffering from acid reflux AKA Gastroesophageal Reflux or GERD.All babies have some level of reflux until the age of six months or so [...]

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Comment on Decoding Your Container by Diane

Diane — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:24:57 +0000

Searching for this information is what brought me to your site. I plan to keep the list on the fridge as a reference, to decide what to do with various containers (whether to recycle or re-use). I’ve lately become aware of the danger of hormone disruption from heating or reusing plastics. Thanks for posting!

Comment on A Check List For Moms New To Breastfeeding by Diane

Diane — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 22:15:50 +0000

I’m nowhere near needing this, but it seems like a great basic starter list of advice! Thanks!!

Comment on De-Icing The Green Way by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 01:17:36 +0000

Hi Sara,

Neither did I until I did the research. Some of it seems so obvious, ya know? Thanks for stopping by my site.

Jess

Comment on My Birth Plan by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 01:16:32 +0000

Hi Rochelle,

It is unfortunate but true that many woman are surprised to know that they have rights as a birthing woman. You are not sick and you are not a patient. You are simply a woman doing exactly what your body has been built for.

Now, don’t get me wrong. There are certainly instances where medical intervention is necessary in order to keep mom and baby safe. But, overall, interventions are what put mom and baby in harms way. If doctors would just allow nature to take its course (due dates, pitocin) then there would be far fewer c-sections and difficult births.

I could go on and on. This is something that gets me pretty fired up so I’ll stop here.

If you decide to have another child, please feel free to contact me with any questions or help with preparing your birth plan.

Jess

Comment on My Birth Plan by Rochelle

Rochelle — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 22:48:10 +0000

Wow this is all news to me, I was never told I could make a birth plan or have request. Both of my pregnancies were difficult, from start to finish.

I also wanted to say how beatiful your daughter is not only in her physical appearance, but I can see she has a beautiful heart, the Lord has truly blessed her and her parents.

Be Happy Be Blessed,
Rochelle

Comment on De-Icing The Green Way by Sara

Sara — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 18:29:28 +0000

Really interesting article. I never knew there were different forms of salt that were less harmful to the environment. Also like the idea of using bird food for traction!

Comment on About by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:56:08 +0000

Hi Bob,

I can’t promise that you will make any money with the information I have for you BUT at the very least you will know the ins and outs of this screwy industry. Best of luck to you,

Jess

Comment on About by Bob Robinson

Bob Robinson — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 05:57:28 +0000

I feel you’ve already “made” me $157. Angel’s sales are lacking because the price is going down!I’m not looking to “get rich”.I’m a husband and father to two wonderful children ,looking for a legitamite way to earn extra income.You seem very REAL to me and I’m looking forward to review your information.
P.S. I’m a HVAC technician and if your information does make me money, you’ll get your instant hot water for free.LOL

Comment on Excited about Working From Home by Jess Ray

Jess Ray — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 21:00:38 +0000

Hi Heidi,
Thanks for the offer. Yes, at the moment I use both DIY products as well as natural products for home and personal care. Any information you can share would be great.

Jess

Comment on Excited about Working From Home by Heidi Unkrich

Heidi Unkrich — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 21:43:47 +0000

Jess ~ Interesting website. Do you use natural cleaning products, shampoos, laundry soap,etc? My daughter suffered with eczema for years until I switched over to non toxic products. I was so pleased with the products, I started marketing them part time. They do not cost more than national brands, in fact, they are less expensive. I would love to give you an online presentation. ~ Heidi

Comment on About by admin

admin — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 02:28:18 +0000

Hi Jean,

Yea, this area is beautiful and you can’t beat the summers here. If I can help at all with your biz, let me know.

Jess

Comment on About by Jean Schweikhard

Jean Schweikhard — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 21:14:16 +0000

I came across your youtube video while researching ‘angel’ scams—and thought you might be scamming as well! Anyway, was very pleased to see that you are ligit and a fellow Potsdam alum—I, too, attended for only a year. (I was spending waaay too much $ at the local pizzeria and pubs—so transferred back to my hometown of Buffalo.
Glad you aren’t scamming—and look forward to getting more of your emails and learning about internet marketing. Some friends and I are starting a business and need any and all advice.(we’re all older moms of highschool age kids)
PS-we camp every summer up in Blue Mt. Lake–love the ADK

Comment on Organic Vitamins – Hype or Health? by Willodean

Willodean — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 10:14:35 +0000

Just stopped by, nice blog!

Comment on Top 10 Reasons to wear your baby by kristy

kristy — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 21:22:12 +0000

I have the moby wrap.. baby wearing is great! I can shop and do all sorts of things, without her minding a bit!! My daughter just loves it.. I’m biased to the moby wrap, because it’s the only wrap i’ve used.. compared to other ones it doesn’t make my back hurt as bad!

Comment on Organic Vitamins – Hype or Health? by Jenn

Jenn — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 06:03:39 +0000

That is all good info!! If you get a chance I would love your opinion on my orgnaic candy site and marketing… I just can’t find your email on the site… Thank you, Jenn http://www.sugarcoatedorganics.com

Comment on The “Organic Dirty Dozen” by Patrick

Patrick — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 02:56:22 +0000

Hi, I found your blog on this new directory of WordPress Blogs at greenncheap.com. I dont know how your blog came up, must have been a typo, i duno. Anyways, I just clicked it and here I am. Your blog looks good. Have a nice day. Patrick.

Comment on Review – Ed Dale’s 30 Day Challenge by Brent Hodgson

Brent Hodgson — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 14:02:01 +0000

Hi Jess,

Thanks for your great feedback – I’m glad that you’re enjoying Market Samurai – even in its unfinished state, when there’s so much left to be completed inside the tool.

Brent

Comment on Pros and cons of using sign language with your child – 2 by Tanya

Tanya — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:23:08 +0000

Hello Jessica, my name is Tanya and I’m a asl instructor specializing with babies. I read your ezine article and I’m glad to know that your baby is starting to speak and sign at the same time, this is really great and from what I read your bond with your child has grown stronger as most parents do when they sign with their children. Always glad to know that more parents are signing to communicate with their children. Let me know if I assist you in anything or any of your readers.

Comment on Excited about Working From Home by Glen McNiel

Glen McNiel — Tue, 29 Apr 2008 03:07:25 +0000

Jess, you’re just awesome. More power to you with all you do.

Comment on Excited about Working From Home by Mendy

Mendy — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 16:49:32 +0000

Howdy, Jess. Great to see what you’ve got going on your web site. You will be happy to know that my wife Daphne and I installed solar panels on our house in January – 27 panels to be exact. These panels can provide for 75-80% of our current electrical use (we are looking at making some changes in what we do to improve that) plus a backup battery that can power our critical home systems for 24 hours in case of a grid outage. Cost was about $45k, with Xcel Energy and the State of Colorado funding about half of the cost with rebates and tax credits. At current kwh prices, our payback is about 13 years. However as the rate/kwh goes up, payback period will be shorter.

In addition, while in New Orleans last November for some post-Katrina volunteer work, we spent some time assisting at a no-kill animal rescue shelter and ended up adopting another dog, our third. We named her Nola. She is a 2-yr. old aussie/heeler/Catahoula mix, weighs about 27 lbs. and is awesome. She provides some fresh energy for Pete, who is now 11 and blind, and Ruby who is in her homestretch at 15 1/2 and ailing.

Pass my greetings on to Matt and hope all is well in your world of beer, food, dogs, kids, etc.

Mendy

Comment on 10 more ways to be Green on a Budget by Travis Wright

Travis Wright — Thu, 27 Mar 2008 17:59:26 +0000

I love this information! Great stuff. Keep it up, its been a month since the last post?

I need that low flow showerhead… looks like a good idea.

Comment on 10 ways to be green on a budget by ZenGlen

ZenGlen — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:00:19 +0000

Excellent article! Wipee! I’m the first to leave a comment.

Here in Thailand, we do a lot of this stuff more or less because we have to. Like we always line dry our laundry, because we don’t have a dryer. Most people don’t. No dishwasher, so we all clean our dishes as soon as we’re finished. Big grocery stores are still much more expensive than the farmers market, plus the local farmers produce is much nicer, and right around the corner so we get what we need every couple of days. Not to mention our refrigerator is too small to hold much. Regular light bulbs are actually hard to find here, most everything in the stores are florescent.

For most Thais it seems, it just doesn’t make sense to consume in a way that produces so much trash. They reuse just about everything. It’s pretty neat.

Some of your suggestions I hadn’t even thought of though, like unplugging or flipping off the surge protector for devices that aren’t in use, but still consume energy like the TV, computers, and such.

Finally, another thing I like, is that most bathrooms here have a small water heater mounted on the wall in the bathrooms, that do a pretty good job of warming the water for showers. Every other faucet just runs cold, like in the sinks. It’d be interesting to hear your thoughts on hot water. I know some new houses come equipped with some kind of water heating mechanism that conducts heat from underground. Also, gets me thinking about water conservation.

Again, great post! Keep it up!

Comment on Even the smallest effort counts for something by Glen McNiel

Glen McNiel — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 15:25:17 +0000

Thanks for starting this blog LadyBug. This is a topic that is near and dear to me and my family. I remember the cloth diapers especially, and how it was a labor of love to keep using them when life got busy. More power to ya, I look forward to more great posts like this one.