Breast milk but not breastfeeding?

So a few weeks ago my parents were visiting and as usual my mom brought me her back issues of Time magazine.

Ordinarily I don’t find an article worth writing about but this was just too interesting not to share.

Apparently there are a group of moms who choose to pump and bottle feed their babies rather than nurse them. These moms recognize the overwhelming benefits of breast milk…but for one reason or another they are not comfortable with nursing.

Here is the link to the full article on Time magazine site:

Mothers Who Opt for Breast Milk, Not Breast-Feeding

14 Responsesto “Breast milk but not breastfeeding?”

  1. katie says:

    thats ok Jess I was not offended by your article I just wanted people to know that sometimes unfortunately as much as we want to breastfeed its sometimes not possible so that we have to make other arrangements to make our children healthy and safe and do what is best for our little ones

  2. Jess Ray says:


    I apologize if my article offended you. That was certainly not my intention. I was simply sharing my experience with pumping. I tried it several times with very little production and sore nipples to show for it. I don’t what I would have done if it was my only option to feed my baby breast milk. I commend you for doing what you can to get your babe the best nutrition possible. Truly, I was not passing judgement on moms who choose to pump and I am truly sorry if my words hurt you in any way.


  3. katie says:

    I love pumping Im a bigger chested women and I find breast feeding way to hard for me and my little guy yet i pump so he does get my nutrition yes it takes more time but at least im still giving my baby the full breast which is best, he does however is lactose intolerant so he does have to get the lactose free formula as well as myself cutting all diary out of my diet . so i really hate it when people get defensive about not eating from my breast and that i bottle feed intill you are in someones shoes i dont think you should judge.

  4. Erika says:

    My baby was having green stools because she was getting too much foremilk and not enough hind milk. So, most of the time I pump then feed her the bottle to make sure she’s getting enough hindmilk.

  5. Lynn Krause says:

    I believe wholeheartedly that breast milk is best for babies, and I live in rural Minnesota. Two very important factors in my choosing to pump exclusively and feed my baby from a bottle. I have inverted nipples and worked very hard to try to get them ready for breastfeeding during my pregnancy. I wore breast shields and did all kinds of massaging. When my baby came 3 weeks early, I breast fed him in the hospital, and he had difficulty latching on which, along with the inverted nipples, was very frustrating. Within a couple of days, by nipples were raw and bleeding and I had developed mastitis. I wasn’t giving up, so I started pumping to get him the breast milk while I healed. When I healed, we still had latch issues and because of where we live, there just were not resources for support and help. The hospital where I delivered didn’t have a lactation consultant, and the one available through public health wasn’t really available to help when we needed like they boasted to be. I just kept pumping and I produced a ton of milk….much more than he needed and I now have a huge supply built up in the freezer. I still pump about 5 times a day and my baby is doing great. I give my baby a combination of milk that I have frozen and milk that is fresh. He is in the 75-80 percentiles for height and weight and our doctor is pleased with him. It is a head ache to clean bottles and find the time to pump, but for me it is worth it. I found a way around the fact that my body is not conducive to the area we live in and still get my baby breast milk.

  6. I pump so that my husband can feed our daughter while I’m at work. When I’m home, I breastfeed. She’s never had ‘nipple confusion,’ and is a great eater. At 2 mo, she’s 14lbs, so there are no issues! She only eats ever 4 hours, but I pump ever 2 or so, which leaves us a healthy frozen supply, for when our parents babysit. As long as she gets the best nutrition, what does it matter?

  7. Jess Ray says:


    I think you may be missing my/our point. This article is about women who choose to pump because they do not like to nurse for one reason or another, not because they have to go back to work. I applaud any working mom who pumps. Honestly, with the little experience I have had with pumping, I don’t think I could do it. So please, don’t think the nature of this post is to criticize moms like your friends. Not at all. I was just an interesting article about women who pump even though they don’t “need” to and in turn it started an interesting conversation.

  8. Ronia says:

    Look, I’m coming into this conversation super late but most of my friends have chosen to pump because they have to work. That’s the number one reason they do it. In fact, one of my friends is a single mom and had to return to work 2 weeks after she had her son due to the fact that she was broke, had no leave from her employer and couldn’t afford COBRA had she not worked the first working day of the month to continue her health benefits for her and her son, pumping was the best solution for her.

  9. Jess Ray says:


    That is a good point. Overall there is going to be some benefit to the babies regardless of how the milk is being “delivered” or the “age” of said milk.

    I do believe I have read something similar about the milk changing as the baby ages but I think that is more in regards to the density and caloric makeup, not the super antibodies and nutrients.

    My fascination with the subject is more directed towards the choice “pumping” moms are making. Like I said in my comments on the article, I HATED pumping, couldn’t be bothered with all the cleaning involved and truly enjoyed the closeness nursing provides.

    I have to admit it would have been (be) nice to hand babe over to Daddy or MomMom for a break now and again.

    But, Miah is already 5 months and before I know it he will be a walking, talking, weaning toddler.

  10. Jess Ray says:

    Hi Mom of 3,

    I applaud you endlessly for doing everything you could to do what was best for your babies. Your case is absolutely an exceptional one. Any mom with multiples needs help in some form. Knowing what is involved with nursing one baby I can only imagine the challenge two or more babies must pose.

  11. momof3 says:

    I had to pump and feed bottles. I had 9 week early triplets that needed formula added to the breastmilk to increase the calories. Cleaning the pump and bottles was a hassle, but I am so thankful for the breastmilk my babies were able to receive.

  12. CA says:

    While I of course believe breast milk to be the obvious option over formula, I wonder if the use of stored breast milk is as effective, nutritionally speaking, as nursing your baby as he/she grows. I am definitely not an expert but it’s my understanding that the milk mom produces can/does change to meet the nutritional needs of her baby.
    The mom in the article said that she pumped all the milk she’d use for her baby in the first few months. Well I just wonder if using milk from month 3 will fully satisfy the nutritional requirements of a 13 month old baby?

  13. Robin says:

    I think in most cases this is due to early latch difficulties, at least it was in my case.

  14. mellomouse says:

    my sentiment exactly about the pumping and bottles! that’s twice the job and twice the time spent. not forgetting sterilizing bottles and warming up the EBM *faints*

    no matter how sore i am now, i would rather my baby latches on than giving him the bottle. furthermore, he gets lazy and impatient with my nipple after getting the easy flow from a bottle.

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